How you dress is just one way of teaching your nervous system whether it’s safe to be you or not.

I truly believe that everyone is capable of recognizing what clothing they love and combining it into an outfit in a way that pleases and supports them.. IF they can access that information within themselves..!

Unfortunately, many of us were trained as children that our opinions weren’t valid, our needs weren’t achievable, our wants weren’t possible, and our preferences weren’t welcome.

And now as adults we lack the programming to identify and defend our own opinions and (combined with our shadow) it prevents us from being able to adorn and display ourselves in a way that feels true and exciting and accurate.

This is why I created a specific form of style coaching that acts as a precursor to hiring a stylist.

If you don’t know who you are or you struggle to express a definitive Yes or No, a stylist is going to struggle to effectively help you dress as your most authentic self.

They will always create beautiful and flattering outfits, but if you don’t want to feel like you’re in a costume you’ll need to be able to tell a Yes from a No in your body, and defend it without self-abandoning.

The best part?

If you learn to do this with something as simple and low-consequence as clothing, you’ll notice the new programming has a profound effect on your ability to back yourself and express yourself in every other area of your life.

Imagine what life would be like if your nervous system truly believed that

Your opinions matter and you’re safe to voice them
Your feelings matter and you’re competent at processing and releasing them

Your needs matter and you know how to get them met

Your authentic self is welcome and you’re less exhausted from masking and coping with every new day

All of this is achievable with in-wardrobe coaching.

Here’s how it works

Your wardrobe is a microcosm – an aesthetic compilation of your priorities, limitations, and beliefs about yourself and your place in the world.

How it’s managed, what it’s comprised of, how it serves (or bullies) you, how well suited to you and your routine it is, and how it either stresses or buoys you are all indicators of deeper childhood programming that unconsciously controls your self-perception and progress.

Here’s what happens in a 2 hour in-wardrobe coaching call

Firstly, you show me your closet and I ask you a lot of questions about what’s in it and why. You’re going to answer to the best of your ability, and what information and opinions you can access with the vocabulary your various ego layers choose will show me what models of reality your system is operating within.

From there, we’re going to do some unpacking and I’m going to help you see the scaffolding of your life. Your current personality structure (who you’ve learned you had to be) followed by a more complete picture of who you really are and are trying to express.

After that we’re going to use some styling principles and methodologies to get you more in touch with how you actually want to dress, which will help you choose your pieces and combinations more accurately going forward, and we’ll also create a plan for you to tweak your dressing habits and choices so that they reinforce the identity you would need to live out your dreams in every other area of your life.

Illumination. Education. Direction.

It’s so easy to book your session - simply choose a time that suits your schedule.

In-wardrobe coaching

Sessions are conducted on Zoom so you’ll need to angle your laptop to face your closet.